Would people, who know you best, identify you as upbeat and a giver? But have you ever felt hollow and empty inside? Have you sometimes decided that you have nothing more to give to people around you?

I’m sure we have all felt that way during some point in our lives. The feeling may catch us by surprise, sneak up on us, and leave us unable to get up and face the world. Or we may recognize the sensation of emptiness after a challenging event in our life—the birth of a baby, the care of elderly parents, the breakup of a marriage, the accumulation of stress, or the loss of a job and career.

But what if there is no specific cause? What if we can only shrug our shoulders and say, “I don’t know why I’m feeling this way?”

Sometimes we give of ourselves until the reservoir runs dry. To be born a giver can be uplifting but challenges can sap inner strength. A well doesn’t replenish itself. There has to be an inward flow.

Anger and depression can take up residence where once there was joy and vitality. We are human and we all need to feel an inflowing of comfort and a time of renewal. It’s not a sin to pull away from things, including people and loved ones, when constant demands deplete layers of our inner stability and stamina. Even Jesus had to disappear and seek renewal.

We should never feel guilt while stepping out of the picture long enough to gain replenishment. Givers must understand that a time away or hiatus actually helps them continue with the giving lifestyle, which is an intricate part of their personality. They love to give. A Giver can’t be happy if they totally forsake what God has implanted in them—the desire to help and provide for others.

So, keep on giving but don’t cheat yourselves out of a time for renewal. It’s okay to take that little trip, head for the woods, climb on that horse, and ride into the sunset. Run off to the beach, hide from the world for a week … a day … an hour, or go eat at your favorite restaurant in another town. Why not call up an understanding friend and take them to lunch? Totally change your daily routine and do something different. Take a long drive, stop at some quaint diner for lunch, or stroll through a local park.

Remember the scriptures. “A merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit drieth the bones.” Proverbs 17:22 KJV

Be a happy giver and prevent breakage of spirit by taking time out for yourself. God understands you have physical, emotional, and mental needs. A giver shouldn’t feel guilty about slipping away and finding time to mend. So … run away, if only for an hour. Gain strength to fly.



 © Karen Campbell Prough     

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  • Hi Karen. Have you heard the song by the Gaither Vocal Band called “GIVE IT AWAY”? I am not sure why but reading this made me think of that song. I have it on a DVD. If you happen to come my way sometime I will play it for you. Yes you have mentioned climbing the fence and laying down in the field and just taking it all in and relaxing. I did laugh at you for saying that at the time but I’ll have to admit I see where you are coming from. I may do that myself sometime but I don’t have an orange cat to protect me from the snakes. 🙂

  • Oh the “ruts” we find ourselves in sometimes. I think it’s when this rut (hollow feeling) becomes “too deep” that we can loose that joy & vitality. I love the
    comment you made about Jesus & HIS disappearing (act) to seek renewal.
    A great lesson for us to follow.

  • Love your thoughts on replenishment.

  • Thank you Karen for this wonderful reminder. I am one of those people. Probably one of the reasons I deal with anxiety. I’m going to an Origami owl party tomorrow night. Maybe I do need to treat myself:-)

    • Christine, you do need to treat yourself. Take the time to do it. I sometimes get loaded with requests from others and I find myself sinking. So I was preaching at myself and trying to give myself permission to escape–even if it’s to go out in the middle of a cow pasture and sit down in the sun (and hopefully not sit on a cow patty! Ha.) I once told my cousin about my thoughts. A nearby cow pasture looked so calm and far away from “normal” life. I had to fight the urge not to stop the truck, climb the fence, and run out and join the cows. I think he thought I was crazy. Ha. But I was thinking about the quietness, the sun beating down on me, and being where no one would think to look.

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